“No one is born hating another person because of the color of his skin, or his background, or his religion. People must learn to hate, and if they can learn to hate, they can be taught to love, for love comes more naturally to the human heart than its opposite.”
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Her face says it all. All women who take transit have experienced this: the guy who sits next to you who simply will not contain his limbs in his own personal space bubble, nudging his knee and thigh into yours. While most people, regardless of gender, will use the seat next to them to park their purse or backpack or packages, the use of one’s own body to take up large amounts of space tends to be distinctly male. Think about the last time you saw a woman sitting on the subway with her legs completely splayed out, taking up two seats. I can’t even recall the last time I saw this - it’s because women grow up being taught to be wary of taking up too much space, whether it be physical or verbal. We’re taught to hold our bodies in certain ways in order to be ladylike, which can be another word for docile, or non-threatening (to men). Women grow up understanding that we are not entitled to the space around us. Men, on the other hand, take and use this space freely and easily, seemingly without noticing that it makes others (especially women) uncomfortable. They grow up understanding that they ARE entitled to the space around them - and even the space of others. The act of sitting next to someone and forcing yourself non-consensually into their space is an act of power. The fact that so many men do this without even thinking about it is a great example of the subtle but ever present power hierarchy that exists between men and women.